This book is intentionally written to be relevant to newcomers and to help more experienced members develop a deeper understanding of the twelve steps. Step 8 we are going to change it up a little and post a big book study workshop that took place in 2011, each speaker is presenting for about an hour on one step. Directions for taking step 9 are listed on page 76, paragraph 3, lines 611. Before we could rebuild relationships, we needed to identify the relationships that were damaged. Downloadable group workbook companion to the 12 steps of alcoholics anonymous aa, for adults who desire information on alcoholism and addiction recovery. Step nine how to make amends made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. It is the basic text of the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous, and has helped large numbers of alcoholic men and women, young and old, recover as of december 2009, 30,664,881 copies of the big book have been sold or otherwise. Step 8 is based upon the principle of authentic love. When you were in the midst of your addiction, you likely caused.
Stepbystep guide for sponsors a companion to aas big book. This is getting into the meat of amends the 9th step promises are just around the corner please dont give up. Twelve step prayers spiritual alcoholics anonymous cleveland. If we can let go of our previous hurts to others, we can begin a new facet of sobriety. When ready say the seventh step prayer with your sponsee. You begin to feel empathy and compassion for the people you have hurt as the result of your addiction. I find time to do and say things that would help heal the damage that i have done. Regardless of how we do it the main thing is to watch for fear, anger, dishonesty and selfishness f.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do. Step 8 forms the base for all future relationships. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol drugs, actingout behaviour. This step gave me the chance to reflect on my past and take full responsibility for my part in the burned bridges. The individual sections of this study guide material reflect ideas, emotions and attitudes you might hear from the mouth of that old timer over in the corner. Aa step 9 of the 12 steps is a call for recovering alcoholics to make amends. Steps 8 and 9 go together, like 4 and 5 or 6 and 7.
Making amends in addiction recovery hazelden betty ford. Dec 23, 2007 step 8 questions to ask yourself while working step 8 step eight part 1. The fi rst, and one of the most diffi cult, has to do with forgiveness. A simple guide that works with the big book to make step work fast, concise and powerful. When addiction had its grip on me, some of my relationships with loved ones became strained, and i hurt some of those closest to me. It is the basic text of the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous, and has helped large numbers of alcoholic men and women, young and old, recover. Stepwork downloads you will need the following 4 things to get started. Almost always we want to go further and admit other defects that have made us hard to live with. Steps eight and nine are concerned with personal rela.
Once youve completed your list and you know what you have to say, you can divide your list into three groups. Step 8 questions to ask yourself while working step 8 step eight part 1. It was not produced by alcoholics anonymous, but rather was printed and subsequently modified by several different publishers. These last three steps keep us current and help us to. Beneath the religious language, there is a wealth of wisdom. The big book is clearwe do this to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to god and our fellow man.
Together with the firm, he expanded the scope of the 8step process from its original version in leading change to the version outlined in his 2014 book, accelerate. This form is not taken in its entirety from the big book. Book jason for speaking engagements, events or appearances and let him bring. The big book of alcoholics anonymous can be purchased at aa central or a bba meeting you can purchase a bba workbook at any bba meeting, or online at you do not need to print the following step material until you are instructed to do so. While the purpose of making restitution to others is. Because this book has become the basic text for our society and has helped such large numbers. How ii big book step workshop we, of alcoholics anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have. Through a true return to who they always were deep down inside, the addict begins planting the seeds for his or her own growth. We are faced with fear usually in our first few steps of embarking on this effort.
Directions for taking step 8 are listed on page 76, paragraph 3, lines 25. Now we need more action, without which we find that faith without works is dead. The moment we ponder a twisted or broken relationship with an. Questions made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. There is no one set way that the founders and pioneers worked the steps. Click the link above to download the printable 12 step guide. Phrases such as a day at a time, the big book, pressing buttons, hitting your knees, on the program, have a certain resonance for those within the fellowship, but to those. The narcotics anonymous step working guides unfamiliar, we should feel free to make use of a dictionary. Dec 27, 2019 alcoholics anonymous is a fellowship of recovering alcoholics who have chosen to help one another stay sober. What are the results when i try to make things happen the way i want them to. Download the ebook below to learn more about the 8step.
As we read in the preface to the fourth edition of the big book. I try to bring goodness where previously i had brought discord and destruction. This form is not taken in its entirety from the big book, but. An early step study guide this little booklet, originally titled alcoholics anonymous. It builds on step 8, which required the individual to make a list of everyone he or she has harmed throughout the battle with alcohol addiction. Title cover focus index introduction notes step 1 step 2 step 3 step 4 step 5 step 6 step 7 step 8 step 9 step 10 step 11 step 12 whole document pamphlets. I expressed my entire willingness to approach these individuals, admitting my wrong. Step 8 was an assurance against harming others when we began contacting them in step 9. This step requires you to make a list of people you have harmed and be willing to apologize and right your wrongs. Step 8 is the beginning of the actualization of steps 5, 6, and 7. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except to do so would injure them or others. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. Step eight made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became. Step 8 is the more specific persontoperson application of the shamereduction that was begun in steps 4 and 5.
Phrases such as a day at a time, the big book, pressing buttons, hitting your knees, on the program, have a certain resonance for those within the fellowship, but to those outside the fellowship are meaningless and pat. Again, the notions of exoneration, purification, liberation and salvation return as in step four to close out the process of spiritual awakening. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to. Step 8 asked me to continue making changes by revisiting my past and making a list of those id wronged somehow. We need to address omissions as well as the obvious. Fill out the form directly from the saved copies of your fourth step inventory worksheets. Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
During any such meeting to study the aa big book, you would expect to encounter a wide variety of viewpoints on the portions under consideration. Step 8 is the beginning of making amends for the things you did when you were under the influence of alcohol. Step 9 made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. You can also turn to aas big book and twelve steps and twelve. Our goal is to study the steps as a friendly, focused group, and work them as the authors of the big book described. May, 2019 making amends in recovery why it is so important. These last three steps keep us current and help us to continue to solidify the foundation of our recovery. The idea for this piece of literature came from the narcotics anonymous fellowship itself. This step is described on roman numeral pages 25 32 xxv xxxii, on pages 1 44. We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. Even if im not a fan of moses and the ot, i can concede that thou shalt not kill is a good idea, nonetheless.
After completing step 8 made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them allthe next logical step is to make those amends if possible, and the suggestion is to do so directly to those. As na grows in numbers, in diversity, and in strength and longevity of clean time, we. It makes you more mindful of your place in the world. Implicit in both steps 8 and 9 is the assumption that we carry a toxic residue of shame from virtually every incident in which we have hurt, rejected, or ignored others.
Dec 27, 2019 aa step 9 of the 12 steps is a call for recovering alcoholics to make amends. You make a list of the people that you harmed and put yourself in the space of being willing to make amends to those people. February 2019 of a step study book, with some significant changes, including the addition of examples of fillout step 4 and 89 forms in the appendix. At the time of these occurrences, they may actually have given our emotions violent twists which have since discolored our personalities and altered our lives for the worse. Step 8 is regarded as one of the most challenging steps by many members. When ready have your sponsee add the names of all people and institutions they have harmed to an amends list. Steps by the big book step 8 steps by the big book. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol drugs, actingout behaviour, that our lives had become unmanageable.
This form is not taken in its entirety from the big book, but is a useful guide. I view the 12 steps, and the aa big book as a mixture of the weird and the wonderful. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. We have made tremendous and miraculous changes as a result of the work we have done before this. On the fourth paragraph on page 76, the big book provides us with some insight as to how to approach some of those to whom we owe amends. Step 1 we admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Implicit in both steps 8 and 9 is the assumption that we carry a toxic residue of shame from. Big book of alcoholics anonymous large print or hard cover recommended and the. Steps 1 through 7 were more personal steps, as their focus was more on my past thoughts and actions that caused me to make some internal changes. Step 8 is a wonderful step for beginning to rebuild some bridges that were burned in active addiction. The 10 th step inventory can be done using your 4 th step inventory, a journal, a balance sheet, or it can be done right out of the big book pg 8485. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became.
Step eight of aa alcoholics anonymous helps recovering alcoholics to live in the. Step 8 instructs you to make a list of the people you have harmed and become willing to make amends to them all. It builds on step 8, which required the individual to make a list of everyone he or she has harmed. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. Step 8 is mostly about identifying the damage you have done to others and. Kotter switched his focus from research to impact with the founding of kotter. Book and forms for working the twelve steps of overeaters anonymous according to the big book directions. Where are the steps outlinedlaid out in the big book. We began to list people we had harmed, but many of us found we could not list these people without being distracted by feelings of resentment toward those who. The aa big book deals with steps eight and nine seamlessly and seems to take it for granted that we know the harms we have done to others. Alcoholics anonymous is a fellowship of recovering alcoholics who have chosen to help one another stay sober. Made direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
My sponsor is strictly by the book he maid me start at the doctors opinion and when i got to the 3rd step prayer in how it works he asked me asked me the first to steps and i agreed then we went from there i took the third step and at once did an inventory then admitted to him and god and myself my wrongs then i was ready to have him remove my defects of character so i did my seventh step with. This guide has been prepared not as a replacement for or interference to our basic texts the big book and 12 and 12 but as a companion for the ideas and directions presented there. This steps by the big book workbook is for those who are willing to grow along spiritual lines 60. Aa the original way 12 step guide aa the original way group. Step 9 requires the recovering alcoholic to be willing to go to any lengths to make amends. Working step 8 and 9 puts you in touch with your own humanity again. This 12 step program has achieved widespread acceptance and forms the basis of aa programs operated by chapters around the. Breaking down step eight of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. The best big book workshop workbook available anywhere today is right here in your hands. In step 9, you will then begin to make those amends to the people on the list. My sponsor is strictly by the book he maid me start at the doctors opinion and when i got to the 3rd step prayer in how it works he asked me asked me the first to steps and i agreed then we went from there i took the third step and at once did an inventory then admitted to him and god and myself my wrongs then i was ready to have him remove my defects of. Beginning in the early 1980s, we began receiving twelve step guides and step worksheets along with requests that we develop a standard set of guides for the na fellowship to use in working. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. In the process, the period for taking the steps was expanded and modified from 4.
Dec 07, 2018 step 8 is a wonderful step for beginning to rebuild some bridges that were burned in active addiction. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to. Step 2 came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. A study of step 9 of the 12 step program verywell mind. Steps by the big book step 9 steps by the big book. An interpretation of our twelve steps, was widely used in the early days of a. We tend to focus on the big hurts and forget that little injury after little injury grows into big damage. Aa speakers joe and charlie steps 5, 6, 7, and 8 the big book. This is the latest version february 2019 of a step study book, with some significant changes, including the addition of examples of fillout step 4 and 8 9 forms in the appendix. Sep 24, 2014 i view the 12 steps, and the aa big book as a mixture of the weird and the wonderful. However, take care not to use aa jargon or even worse psychobabble. A study of step 8 of the 12 steps program verywell mind. In order for this to happen we must go directly into steps 10, 11 and 12 while doing step 9. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
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